Are there limiting beliefs you’re embracing that are keeping you from reaching your goals?
“I’m too overweight so if I work out I’ll likely hurt myself.”
“I don’t have enough experience to be successful at…”
“If I do this I will embarrass myself and there’s no coming back from that.”
Whatever it is that is holding you back, I’m here today to tell you that it is time to break through those limiting beliefs. This episode isn’t directly about real estate but I hope you find it an inspiration—that you CAN and WILL succeed.
I’ve been overweight most of my life and have lived the weight loss roller-coaster. I once lost a whopping 140 pounds—then gained it all back. After 10 years of doing nothing fitness-oriented, I’ve decided It’s finally time for me to face obesity head-on. I’ve had a breakthrough moment where I am finally ready to be well. I’m not going to make any more excuses. No more “giving myself grace” when a mistake is made. Too much grace allows you to lose focus and you tumble out of control. You know what I’m talking about!
Fear can be the biggest reason we don’t reach success. The fear that we will fail can stop us in our tracks. It limits potential. We’d rather avoid the embarrassment that comes with public failure so we don’t act. Will I look dumb? Maybe. Will there be moments that I’m embarrassed? Of course. But I will overcome any fear that’s holding me back if it allows me to reach my goal. In the last episode, I talked about failure—and that failure only exists if you give up. If you don’t give up, you’re simply learning lessons and those become challenges to overcome. Only then will you find results.
My coach once weighed over 500 pounds. Today, he is 200 pounds. He’s put in the blood, sweat, and tears and has the experience to be able to coach me at a high level. He has me tracking my macronutrients (macros) and micronutrients (micros), weighing my food, and eating healthy balanced meals. GONE are the days of snacking endlessly. GONE are unnecessary sugars and starches. I finally feel that I have a clear goal that’s congruent to me, and I’m doing something I’ve never tried before to reach my end goal of 225 pounds. And you know what? In the last week alone I have already lost 10 pounds!
One of my strongest limiting beliefs was “I can’t work out because I’m too heavy and will hurt myself”. I figured I would just start with healthy eating, lose a decent amount of weight and then I would incorporate the gym. Nope. My coach called me out and put me to work in the gym immediately. He knows what I can do to protect my body so I won’t get hurt—and I completely trust him. You cannot allow yourself to be afraid of the unknown and you need to be confident that you will break through. His coaching is helping me smash through my limiting beliefs—and it is powerful. These are just a few of the things I’m learning as I’m on this side of coaching. I hope that you find it empowering and I can be a positive example of change.
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Are you hungry for growth and ready to take your business to the next level? Is something holding you back? If you’ve already found success it’s easy to continue along the path you’ve already taken. It worked before, it can work again, right? NO. I’m here to tell you that whatever got you where you are now, will not get you where you want to be. This episode is all about stepping up your game, changing and adapting, and doing what it takes to continue succeeding.
We’ve all heard the phrase “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” You’re crazy if you think you can continue utilizing the same strategies endlessly and expect the results you want! The marketplace is ever-changing and if you want to stay in the game you MUST adapt with it. You need to grow with your business—often, that means implementing significant change. Are you up for the challenge?
If you plant a tree, you usually begin growing it in a small pot, right? As you water the plant and provide nutrients, it continues to grow. Perhaps you move it to a larger pot so the roots have more room to stretch. Eventually, your small sapling will be ready to be planted in your yard as its roots continue to deepen and grow. So what do you need to do? Move to a bigger pot.
Surround yourself with people who are more successful than you—even if it’s intimidating.
The only way to grow is to move out of your comfort zone. Join a mastermind group. Seek out a coach that can push you to be innovative and reach the goals you set for yourself. Is it scary? Of course! But if you don’t want your business to be stagnant, it’s time to make a move. Talk to someone who knows what they’re doing. Don’t be afraid to take the plunge.
If the fear of failure is holding you back, remember this: you only fail when you stop or quit. If you’re constantly putting in effort, you either get your desired result or a lesson. If something doesn’t turn out how you expect, what can you learn from the situation? The more lessons you learn and begin to stack up, the closer you get to your desired outcome. You need to reframe how you think about failure and choose to never stop chasing your goals.
The clearest path to success is keeping your strategy simple and clear. There is ZERO need to be spreading yourself thin and implementing too many strategies to grow your business. Identify a simple and straightforward plan and follow through with it. Limiting yourself in this way allows you to focus on what you’re doing—and allows you to learn. And you know what? When you focus, things begin to expand. If you want to take your business to the next level, listen to this episode your steps for success.
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We all have roadblocks that we struggle to overcome, leaving us unable to reach success in things we want to accomplish. As I go through my daily routine, I keep track and write every idea that pops into my head in a journal. Those deep thoughts don’t always become full podcasts, but today I’m taking the things that have been mulling around in my head and sharing them with you. I know you’ll find some hard truths to face and hopefully some great ideas to kick you out of complacency.
Look, we all tend to come into this job believing we need to be a powerhouse. I’ve been in the industry for 17 years and felt that I needed to know all the answers. I’m here to tell you that no matter how long you’ve been in the business, you can always learn. Don’t be ashamed when you don’t know something. Instead, swallow your pride, overcome your fear, and ask for help when you need it. Stop believing the lie that asking for help is a weakness and reach out for help.
Forming healthy habits can be a gamechanger—and potentially one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. It requires consistency and taking responsibility for the little things so you can be trusted with the big things. Everyone has a different spin on how long it takes to form a habit, right? Some stand by the old adage that you can learn to be consistent with a habit in 21 days. I believe it takes closer to 90 days to really form a lifelong habit. But if you can be consistent with something as small as making your be, what other things will you be able to accomplish?
Nobody likes to say no. We are so driven to fill our schedules and do as much as possible that we start saying yes to things that we just shouldn’t prioritize. Are you on the same wavelength as a seller? Are they willing to follow your way of doing things? If not, let them go. You’ll waste your time and energy if you have to veer from what you do and it could prevent you from other transactions where your time is better spent. Set boundaries and guidelines, and say no when you need to.
Fear can be paralyzing. We have such an innate fear of ‘being wrong’ that we often don’t implement new ideas. When I started the Onion Juice podcast I wanted to teach people something to attract business—not chase it. After I gained more experience coaching, I realized this tactic can take 18-24 months for you to see steady business. For most people this is not a sustainable business model. I had to pivot, embrace that I was wrong, and retract some of what I had taught. I hope I can be an example for you that you can adapt and learn as you go. So just go out there and get started and don’t be afraid to make changes.
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Naturally, I believe that if you’re going to get real estate coaching, results are what matters. You’ll be wasting your money if you enter into a coaching relationship that doesn’t work for you. That’s why it’s so important to do your homework if you’re looking for a coach. The person you hire has to fit your personality have the insight to understand what motivates you, and feel confident that they can speak to you in a way that you can actually hear and be moved by.
This episode is a demonstration of how all of that could play out. I talk with Kelly Shipp, the first-ever “Riser of the Month.” Riser of the Month is an award I’m handing out to one of my coaching students each month, highlighting the progress they’ve made in following the steps we’ve laid out for them in our coaching sessions. Kelly talks about her coaching experience, how her business has transformed, the difference it makes for her when she builds her business according to a vision rather than according to her needs, and a whole lot more.
Kelly’s story is pretty typical. She found herself in a place where she was frantically working, scrambling to keep up with all the things required to acquire clients, list homes, do the paperwork, attend closings, etc. - and it was exhausting. More importantly, she didn’t feel like she was getting anywhere. She tried to do things to help her manage things better, but all the podcasts and programs she tried didn’t seem to help.
As she listened to Agent Rise, Kelly felt that she and I were wired similarly and that something about the way I went about things resonated with her. So she decided to reach out to me. An important thing to note is that Kelly decided to get coaching before she had a team of her own. She was working as an agent in another broker’s office. That shows the initiative and drive this fiery woman has. Listen to hear how our coaching relationship took off, what she’s been able to accomplish as a result, and how she recommends you go about finding a coach who fits you!
One of the key points Kelly made during our conversation is that you need an objective person to speak to you about what’s going on in your business. It’s important because you are not able to see yourself (or your business) clearly. You’ll get distracted, bogged down in details you shouldn’t be handling, and much more if you try to go it alone.
But it’s just as important that the person you select to coach you has the experience and knowledge required to help you move in the right direction. If they don't it's like expecting your grandmother or your cousin Joe to help you when they’ve never run a business or worked in the real estate industry before. Stop spinning your wheels and trying random program after random program. It’s time to get the personalized help you need by tapping into the wisdom and insight of a good coach.
Kelly was consuming everything she could find to help her manage and improve the workflows and strategies in her real estate business. But she wasn’t getting anywhere. She says that she’d hear great advice one day, try to implement it, then hear more great advice the next day - and wind up being distracted from the first thing she heard. Have you ever been in those shoes?
It wasn’t that Kelly was getting bad information, she simply wasn’t sure how to keep it all sorted out and prioritized, or how to create a plan to implement it. That is one of the greatest results of coaching, helping you objectively assess strategies, opportunities, and plans so that you can intentionally do the very best, most important things that will move your business forward.
Most of us have lived out the following scenario at one time or another - we strive and work in our real estate business in an effort to pay the bills - and that’s it. It’s a job, and we don’t have much more reason for what we’re doing than that. Kelly was in that same boat. Of course, she had dreams of where she wanted to go in life but wasn’t organizing and working her business in a way that could fuel those dreams.
That is how it was for her until she and I began coaching. One of the primary coaching results that Kelly has received so far is that she’s now crystal clear on her vision and is building her business to make it happen. She and her husband want to live full time in an RV in the coming years so they can travel the country together. It’s an incredible dream, but it can’t happen if she’s tied to a desk in a real estate office, can it? So how’s she going to accomplish it? Listen to find out.
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